WHO IS SHE? Internet Detectives Spot a Woman Grinning Behind Kristin Cabot in the Viral Kiss Cam — Now Linked to a 3-Year-Old DNA Dispute in San Diego!
The viral Coldplay kiss cam scandal involving Astronomer’s former CEO Andy Byron and Chief People Officer Kristin Cabot has taken a bizarre new turn. Internet sleuths have zeroed in on a woman grinning behind Cabot in the July 16, 2025, Gillette Stadium footage, sparking speculation about her identity and a surprising connection to a 2022 DNA dispute in San Diego. Initially misidentified as Alyssa Stoddard, an Astronomer employee, the woman’s true identity remains unconfirmed, but her enigmatic smile and the San Diego link have fueled a frenzy of theories. This article explores the mystery woman, the DNA controversy, and the ongoing fallout from the Astronomer scandal.
The Coldplay Kiss Cam and the Grinning Woman

On July 16, 2025, during Coldplay’s Boston concert, a kiss cam captured Andy Byron and Kristin Cabot in an intimate embrace, prompting frontman Chris Martin to quip, “Either they’re having an affair or they’re very shy.” The clip, which garnered over 46 million views across X and TikTok, led to Byron’s resignation on July 19 and both executives being placed on administrative leave. Leaked emails about a Maine property, a 2022 security video of Cabot in Byron’s hoodie, a deleted Instagram reel from the Byron family bedroom, and Andrew Cabot’s ringless gala appearance have kept the scandal alive.
Amid the chaos, netizens noticed a woman seated behind Cabot, grinning broadly as the couple scrambled to hide from the camera. Her expression—described as a mix of amusement and knowing—went viral, with X users dubbing her the “She Knows Everything” woman. Posts on X, such as one from @javieraliaga_ on July 17, 2025, initially identified her as Alyssa Stoddard, Astronomer’s Senior Director of People, promoted to VP by Cabot in early July 2025. However, Astronomer issued a statement on July 19, clarifying, “Alyssa Stoddard was not at the event and no other employees were in the video,” debunking the initial identification.
The mystery woman’s grin, captured in a screenshot shared by @Sarah_sakkoury on July 19, 2025, has led to speculation that she deliberately flagged the kiss cam to expose Byron and Cabot. Her identity remains unconfirmed, but posts on X have linked her to a 2022 DNA dispute in San Diego, adding a new layer of intrigue to an already explosive story.
The San Diego DNA Dispute: What We Know
The San Diego connection stems from unverified claims circulating on X, alleging that the grinning woman is tied to a 2022 legal case involving a paternity dispute. According to posts by users like @SDTruthDigger, the case involved a woman who filed a lawsuit against an unnamed tech executive in San Diego County, seeking a DNA test to establish paternity for her child, born in early 2022. The case reportedly settled out of court, with no public disclosure of the parties involved. The X posts speculate that the woman in the kiss cam video may be the plaintiff or a close associate, possibly motivated to expose Byron and Cabot due to a personal grudge tied to the earlier dispute.
No court records or credible sources confirm the woman’s identity or her connection to the San Diego case. The timing, however, aligns with the 2022 timeline of other leaks in the Astronomer scandal, including the hoodie video and the Instagram reel from Cabot’s baby shower, which sparked speculation about the paternity of her child, born in early 2023. The San Diego dispute, while unproven, has fueled theories that the grinning woman may have insider knowledge of Byron and Cabot’s relationship, possibly dating back to Byron’s tenure at Lacework, a San Diego-based cybersecurity firm where he served as President until November 2022.
Who Is the Mystery Woman?

Despite initial misidentification as Alyssa Stoddard, the woman’s true identity remains elusive. Astronomer’s statement clarified that no employees were in the kiss cam video, ruling out Stoddard, who joined the company in January 2025 and was promoted to VP of People by Cabot. X users have proposed several theories about the woman’s identity:
A Former Lacework Colleague: Given Byron’s role at Lacework in 2022, some speculate the woman could be a former colleague aware of his relationship with Cabot, which may have begun during that period. The San Diego connection supports this, as Lacework is headquartered there.
A Friend of Megan Kerrigan: Megan Kerrigan Byron, Andy’s wife, deleted her social media accounts after the kiss cam incident and a subsequent baby shower screenshot reignited DNA speculation. Some X users suggest the grinning woman could be a friend of Megan’s, possibly acting to expose the affair after learning of it during her pregnancy in 2022.
A Concertgoer with a Vendetta: The woman’s grin and the claim by @Sarah_sakkoury that she “flagged the kiss cam on purpose” suggest she may have known the couple and orchestrated their exposure. This theory posits a personal motive, possibly tied to the San Diego dispute, though no evidence confirms her involvement with the kiss cam operator.
A Random Bystander: The simplest explanation is that she was a random concertgoer amused by the couple’s awkward reaction. Her grin could reflect secondhand embarrassment rather than insider knowledge, and the San Diego link may be a fabrication by overzealous internet sleuths.
The lack of verified information has led to misinformation, as seen in the initial misidentification of Stoddard. A fake apology letter attributed to Byron and a parody account posing as a CBS journalist have further muddied the waters, highlighting the dangers of online speculation.
The DNA Controversy and Its Implications

The San Diego DNA dispute, while unconfirmed, aligns with the 2022 timeline of Cabot’s baby shower and her divorce from Kenneth Thornby, finalized that year. Cabot’s child, born in early 2023, has been the subject of speculation following a screenshot from her baby shower, allegedly showing Byron in attendance while Megan was pregnant with her second child. The San Diego case, if related, could suggest another layer of personal entanglement, potentially involving Byron or another tech figure from his Lacework days.
For Megan Kerrigan, the DNA controversy adds to her public humiliation. After deleting her social media accounts, she has remained silent, though a possibly fake Facebook account under her name posted about seeking divorce. The grinning woman’s presence in the kiss cam video has reignited sympathy for Megan, with X users like @GossipGuru2025 writing, “That smile says she knew about Andy and Kristin. Megan deserves justice.”
For Kristin Cabot, the speculation threatens her marriage to Andrew Cabot, CEO of Privateer Rum, who appeared without his wedding ring at a July 20 gala. The DNA rumors could further strain their relationship, especially given Kristin’s role at Privateer as an advisory board member.
Astronomer’s Response and Corporate Fallout

Astronomer, valued at $1.3 billion, has faced intense scrutiny. The company appointed co-founder Pete DeJoy as interim CEO and confirmed an ongoing board investigation. The misidentification of Stoddard and the San Diego rumors highlight the challenges of managing a public relations crisis fueled by viral misinformation. The grinning woman’s role, whether intentional or coincidental, has amplified questions about workplace ethics, particularly given Cabot’s position as Chief People Officer.
Public Reaction and the Maine Connection
X users have embraced the mystery woman as a meme, with posts like “She’s the real MVP, smiling like she planned the whole thing” (@ColdplaySleuth). The San Diego DNA dispute, though unverified, has been linked to the Maine property mentioned in leaked emails, with some speculating it was a meeting point for Byron and Cabot in 2022. Cabot’s Maine roots and her New Hampshire home with Andrew Cabot add plausibility to this theory, though no evidence ties the grinning woman to Maine.
What’s Next?
As of July 21, 2025, neither Byron, Cabot, nor the mystery woman has been officially identified or commented on the kiss cam incident. The San Diego DNA dispute remains speculative, driven by X posts rather than concrete evidence. Astronomer’s investigation may clarify the professional fallout, but the personal toll on Megan Kerrigan and Andrew Cabot is evident. The grinning woman, whether a knowing insider or an amused bystander, has become a symbol of the internet’s relentless sleuthing, turning a fleeting concert moment into a saga of betrayal, speculation, and unresolved mysteries.